I have a lot to say

By Keana Zamardi

Month: February, 2014

Thoughts.

I like staying up at night.

I like the way the air feels cold and undisturbed.

I like the way the wind whispers as it passes by, telling stories of lovers bound to the shadows of darkness.

I like the way everything is still and peaceful.

I like the way the lights shine in the distance reminding me of lives I’ll never understand.

I like the way a thought that has been trapped inside your mind all day can finally escape the confines and make itself known.

I like the way each second ticks by slowly and with purpose.

I like the way freedom comes so naturally.

I like the way the blanket of black removes the distractions for just a little while.

I like the way the darkness hides the imperfections.

But mostly, I like the way the stars kiss the moon.

How lucky are they to dance with the light of hope.

How lucky are they to exist thousands of years ago but still be known today.

How lucky are they to posses beauty beyond words and life beyond understanding.

How lucky are they…

I like staying up at night.

Because nothing feels better than the freedom of darkness.

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|| Chasing Perfection ||

          What is perfection? Well, thanks to the Miriam Webster Dictionary, we can search and find a literal meaning of the word, which as you can see below, would be defined as:
 
per·fec·tion
pərˈfekSHən/
noun 
1. the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects.
 
But is perfection even attainable? Is it humanly possible to be void of all flaws or defects? There is so much pressure to be perfect, to find perfection, but is perfection even real? In the literal sense, yes. But how can one be certain that something has reached ultimate perfection? There is no way of knowing when something is completely “free of defects” of rid of “flaws” because everyone else has a different idea of what those things could be. No one person thinks the same way, there is no limit to perfection or how to achieve it, so why is there so much pressure to pursue it? 
 
          Let me explain something; there is an immense difference between doing and being the best you can, and being perfect. There is nothing wrong with striving to be the best you can be and aiming to do the best you can do. Actually, I would encourage it to the highest forms; however, chasing this idea of perfection is where we stoop from healthy competition (with ones self) to ultimately, crushing disappointment. Setting attainable goals bring joy and satisfaction upon achieving them, but aiming for this fictional belief of perfection, that can never actually be achieved, is where society goes wrong because perfection is a highly regarded illusion.
 

“Perfection’ is man’s ultimate illusion. It simply doesn’t exist in the universe…. If you are a perfectionist, you are guaranteed to be a loser in whatever you do.”

― David Burns

          Society impedes on the illusiveness of perfection every day. They depict their idea of what perfection is, and expect everyone else to follow suit. But that’s just plain wrong. The reason that perfection is just an illusion, springs from the fact that perfection is different for everyone. You may think something is void of flaws, but as another looks on, all they see if defect after defect, not perfection at all. There is no one definition of what this word is because each and every person has a different idea on what are flaws and what are not. No two people think the same. And that is the beauty of this world.
 
          But perfection in media is another thing. Young girls, and yes, believe it or not, even young boys, are becoming more and more susceptible to having a hard pressed image of perfection repeatedly, and unwillingly forced into their minds, and when they fall short of achieving this unrealistic standard, they face disappointment with themselves and with who they are, all the while losing confidence in who they are and the amazing and unique gifts and talents they have been given, just because they don’t fit into the typecast, impossible, airbrushed and excessively photoshopped mould media would have you believe is the definition of “perfect.” Well, I’m sorry, but I call bullshit. Just being she doesn’t have long brown hair, blue eyes with the perfection almond shape, long legs, a flat stomach, and toned butt, does not mean she isn’t beautiful. Just because he doesn’t have blonde hair, green eyes, tanned skin, a six pack, and strong legs, doesn’t mean he isn’t exactly as he should be. 
 
          What I’m saying is, everyone sees perfection differently, and everyone should celebrate what makes them unique instead of trying to blend in to what society has deemed “perfect,” because let me tell you, that is not real, that is not true and that is not right. Being the best version of yourself is all that matters. Perfect is not perfect. Everyone see’s you differently, so why change for one ideal, for one image of perfection? It’s not worth losing yourself over. 
 

“In this world, perfection is an illusion. Reagrdless of all those who utter the contrary, this is the reality. Obviously mediocre fools will forever lust for perfection and seek it out. However, what meaning is there in perfection? None. Not a bit. …After perfection there exists nothing higher. Not even room for creation which means there is no room for wisdom or talent either. Understand? To scientists like ourselves, perfection is despair.”

– Kurotsuchi Mayuri (Bleach 306)

 

          But this applies to more than just media’s views of beauty and perfection. This also transfers into other aspects of life such as school, work, sports, anything that is goal oriented. Grades do not define you, how fast you work does not reflect the effort you put in, how many goals you score doesn’t depict your athleticism, etc. As long as you are being the best version of yourself, you are as close to the illusion of perfection as anyone ever will be.

 

Keep being your beautiful self.

xox.

 

-K 

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Lavender Reflections

Here are the images/quotes that I just find so moving and so true. Have a beautiful Sunday!

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The Millennials

This. Is. Beautiful.

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Here’s an article which I read and thought had the most perfect explanation to my beliefs of this generation. This is definitely worth the 2 minute read.

Could It Be? Millennials Are The New Generation of Hippies, But With Better Weed

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“I Am Who I Am Because Of Them.”

What an intriguing statement. What a thought provoking compilation of words. I have never read something so short that sparked such a sense of curiosity, thought, comparison, and interlude within my own being. I am who I am because of them. Wow. 

 

When I first read this quote, I am going to be honest, I saw it in a negative light. I loved it, but I thought it was a statement to the oppressed, the bullied, those who suffer from peers or just the words and actions of those around them. But, with further investigation, and a little bit of time to allow it to resinate in my mind, I realized that it is more than that. This quote speaks to the times of enlightenment, the times of learning, of growth and maturation all due to the help, guidance and/or wisdom of another being. 

 

As humans, we allow our lives to be shaped and altered by the things, and mostly, the people around us. We are a compilation of the things we learn from those whom we choose to spend time around. Taking on two sides of the spectrum, this little quote really reflects life in it entirety. There are people we will encounter who will shape us into better humans; who will love us, support us, teach us and watch us grow into bright, young beings; these people will speak volumes into our lives, perhaps even persuade us to change aspects of ourselves in order to become better humans. In my life, these people would be my parents, and a few close family friends. Then there are those who change us in a more somber, indifferent way. Maybe its the bully you spent all of Middle School actively avoiding, or the girl who made snide remarks about your outfits every single day. Or maybe, it’s your boss who talked down to you each day, making you feel worthless, stupid, unimportant. Whomever it was, these people caused you to think differently about yourself. These people changed you and made you into a different person. Each day, chipping away at the masterpiece that you are, until they created who they wanted, or at least, who they thought they wanted.

 

In the case of the negative, I would just like to say that, even though it is difficult, do not let the mean people of the world become a direct reflection on who you believe you are. Do not let their words and actions have too much power in your life to change you for the worst and forever. These people only bring you down because you are above them. If you give them too much power, you can be left broken and lost. Stand true to who you are, no matter how tough it gets. You hold the power over your own life, not them.

 

But, life is tricky. It’s a balance. A very fine balance. When do we stop letting people change us? How do we know who will change us for the better or for the worst. The world can be cruel and even though it looks like someone is trying to help you, that might not always be true. But the world is also beautiful, loving, and inspired. I have met many people in my life who have changed me for the better; some of those with whom I have become friends have spoken volumes in my life, making me realize certain things that perhaps I may not have realized without their love and support and guidance. Others have come into my life and left my broken, rundown and miserable. But that is life. That is what happens. You are who you are because of each and every person that has entered your life. You may not realize it, but they have shaped you and moulded you, maybe just very slightly, but altered you nonetheless, into who you are at this very moment.

 

They say you become most like the 5 people you frequently hangout with, so choose wisely. But also, be cautious of those who are only there to tear you down, and be inviting of those who want to build you up with positivity and love. You can not live in fear of those who will mistreat you, it is bound to happen multiple times in your life, and being overly cautious can result in possibly missing out of a person whom you have misjudged and who’s goal was to encourage you to the very end. 

 

This isn’t something to be afraid of, its merely something to ponder as you make your way down the path of life. People change, life goes on. Where would we be without those who have left us broken? Where would we be without those who lifted us up? Everything happens for a reason, so don’t be afraid. But above all else guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23) and really choose wisely who you allow into your life because in the end, each person you met impacts you, some more than others, but an impact nonetheless. 

 

Inspire, and impact those around you in a positive way.

 

xox.

 

-K